How many times have you missed good opportunity? How many times did you not make an accurate comment during discussion even though you had it at the end of the tongue? How many times have you forgiven something that you care about? And all of this just because you haven`t enough boldness? I know this feeling .
We have always heard since childhood: you can ` t argue , it`s not proper, shame on you ! Girls do not behave like that !This feeling live on in us. It never lets you forget and blocks us every day. But you can fight with it. I managed to beat it and today I want to tell you how you can handle it and successfully get rid of this burdensome limit.
First get to know yourself better
Do you want to defeat the enemy? First locate it and work it out . Where can you find it ? In your head – it is a blockage that holds you back. Try to understand from where it came . Has it always been there?or did it some kind of person or situation in your life contribute to create it ?
Watch yourself :). When are you shy in what situation? With specific people, or maybe in specific places? How do you react then? Try to understand this mechanism and it will be much easier for you to fix it.
Secondly, the world does not revolve around you
Shy women often think that all attention is focused on them and everyone judges them. I know this sounds brutal, but seriously people have better things to do and do not analyze your every move or word. Remember- Only you can judge yourself ! But stop doing it. When you feel tense among new people then, repeat in your head: no one is judging me now and I do not have to do it either!
Third: be your best friend
Every time when you criticize yourself for something, think about it: Would you say the same if your best friend were in the same situation? Probably not. Why are you so strict with yourself? Every time, remind yourself of it when you want to criticize something again. Just because you are not the best at everything does not mean that you are not good enough. You are good enough. Be your best friend for yourself: do not judge, support, motivate and appreciate 🙂
Fourth: find a goal
Ask yourself what you dream about? Then set a goal and set the steps you need to achieve it. If you know what you need in your live it will be easier for you to bite the bullet and overcome your barriers. Do you know how it was with me? One day I came to the conclusion that I want to enjoy my job, travel a lot and be financially independent. Easy to say, harder to implement. Who wouldn`t want that ? But I did it! It took me a bit because I had to find my way and deal with my limit. From the beginning I did not believe in myself I thought I was not good enough, I had to overcome my shyness.
If you feel that your goal is similar and you want to explore the world, earn good money, and have a great time – Just write or call me , I can help you 🙂
Katarzyna Hajduk:*